By Cara Wheeler, PsyD “It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay. If you’re lost, we’re all a little lost, and it’s alright.” -Nightbirde When I was younger, I wanted to believe that there was one right path for my life. I wanted to think I could “get it right” so that everything would be […]

By Cara Wheeler, PsyD   Grief is strange. I mean, we all think we know what grief looks like until we experience it, and then sometimes it doesn’t look or feel the way we expected it to. Grief is different for everyone, and there is no “right” way to grieve. I had a patient tell […]

By Cara Wheeler, PsyD Assertiveness lies somewhere in between “don’t be a bully” and “use your voice.” For some people, acknowledging that other people’s needs matter as much as their own is tough. Then, some don’t use their voice because they don’t think their needs matter. How do we communicate in the middle? How do […]

By Cara Wheeler, PsyD As I have said before, I coach myself daily, and recently the phrase that I have been repeating to myself is, “Don’t Give Up.” I say this because, truthfully, part of me is so spent and tired that I want to throw my hands up and walk away from responsibility. I […]

By Dr. Cara Wheeler When I get the opportunity to talk to kids in my office, they are often confused when I tell them, “Some of the smartest people ask the most questions.” As a child, I was typically afraid to raise my hand in class because I was terrified of looking “dumb.” I thought […]